Making decisions is not easy and how you make them does depend on a few different things, but there are a few things you can do to make decision making easier.
1.) Flip a coin – I don’t mean in the traditional sense of heads you win, tails you lose. Grab a coin and pick which decision is heads, which is tails. As you flip it in the air you will find yourself hope for heads or tails. You true desire, what you really want shows itself. It doesn’t work 100% of the time, but it is a great way to see what your subconscious really wants. Sometimes just knowing that makes the decision 100 times easier.
2.) List pros and cons – Pretty basic, but it helps. What are all the pros and cons of each situation. It is not a matter of one having more or less, it is also a matter of importance. For example, when weighing up moving recently there were a lot of pros, but the ultimate con was the cost of stability for my children. No matter what decision I have to make, they are my first consideration. How will what I am doing affect them? If there is a negative impact, the decision is a no brainer.
3.) Talk it out – This is more for women generally, because we like to talk. Be selective about who you speak to. If you want a solution and your problem essentially solved/decision made, speak to a male. That might seem sexist but they are generally geared towards problem solving. Yes, some women are great, but men tend to want to find a solution and be done with it.
Women like to talk through options, often actually they just want someone to listen and women don’t always give the best advice. They worry about offending, being tactful and are more interested in trying to find what they think you want and agreeing with that whereas a man might do that to an extent, but they tend to be much better as filtering the facts and finding the best option without all the emotional baggage. That said, this doesn’t mean you should dump everything on your partner or anything. Only go to the man when you are ready for a solution.
Often, the process involves talking through the options, working out what you want, or what is best and why, then making your decision.
4.) Test your options – If you are in a position to do so, try each option you have. This isn’t always practical, but giving something a go that you think is what you want while still having the option to go back to something else can be great. You might love it or hate it, but at least you gave it a go.
5.) Meditate – Take some time to relax and ponder. Guided meditations or reiki are good places to start if you are not used to it. Meditation isn’t just about clearing everything from your mind, although you do want to slow down and take time. Guided meditations can be good because your mind is still doing something instead of you just sitting there trying to clear your head. We live in a very fast paced world and it is very hard to switch off, which is why meditation can be so good. You get that time to relax and regroup.
6.) What are your values/passions/interests? Will this move you in the direction you want? When faced with a decision, it helps if you know where you stand in life normally. What do you value, what is important to you, what do you love? Then it is simply a matter of which decision works best with the answers to those questions.
How do you make decisions?